Family Frustrations

I apologize to those who follow me on Twitter and get regular updates on what is going on with me, but i really felt I needed to share my reasons for not blogging in so long.

Over the past two weeks my step-dad has been staying with us. My sister needed a break from having him constantly around, so Huib and I asked him to come visit. he isn’t a horrible visitor. And he isn’t overly demanding. but, he really isn’t a dog person, so having him here has been a little stressful.

the first annoying thing he has been doing, is constantly telling the dogs to “go lie down” in an unfriendly tone. this isn’t horrible, but I feel as though he needs to understand that the dogs live here and he does not. We allow the dogs to follow us everywhere and are totally used to them being in our way – they’re our family! I have tried to explain this to him, in a polite manner, but he continues to tell them to get out of his way.

The other thing which has caused me stress over the past two weeks, is that at one point Rogue was in the way and almost tripped my Dad, so instead of telling me to move her, he told her to “go lie down, or I’ll smack you”. I was so angry! I was a good girl though and bit my tongue, but since that moment, I have constantly worried about the dogs getting in his way and getting smacked. We do not raise our hands to the dogs and as everyone who reads this blog knows, we do not use compulsion based training methods, so having my dogs threatened really bothered me.

In order to keep my sanity and to protect the dogs, I have been trying to keep Rogue on leash while Huib is working and continue to ask the others to stay near me. I’m not sure Dad realizes why I am being so protective of the dogs, but I really hope he notices and will think twice before threatening them again.

I definitely know I will be thinking twice before inviting him to visit again.

To add to the stress of Dad’s visit, my sister has begun to be a pain in the ass. She had agreed to meet us in North Bay so that we would not have to drive the entire way to Huntsville, but she has now told us that she has no gas money and that she cannot come meet us. She was totally ready to come get him from our house earlier in the week, but we told her it was fine and he was having a good time so not to worry about coming. Now that Dad is actually ready to come home, she has totally changed her tune. I feel as though she takes us for granted. She seems to know the right words to say when we confront her about this fact, but within days she is back to her old tricks and it is getting to a point where both Huib and I are sick and tired of dealing with her.

I know she’s trying her best to make enough money to support herself and that it is stressful for her to constantly have Dad around the house, but she needs to realize that we are also helping her as much as we can and that she can’t continue to treat us like crap.

She also needs to understand that Huib did not marry me to take care of her, and that we do not have to continue to put up with her princess mentality.

I know all families have their issues, but I sometimes feel my family takes the cake.

**Just a note, Blogger will soon be implementing their inaccessible platform, so this blog may be moving to WordPress**

**And finally, I called the Canadian kennel Club and they told me that Canyon earned 3 points for his win at the Windsor show!**

Comments

  1. I am sorry you are having such a hard time. Sometimes living in such close quarters is hard. Also, I can understand your frustration about other people not treating/training your dogs the way you would. I have really noticed that with Hermione and one of our friends. Thankfully, she isn’t living with us. Just know that Huib is there to support you and you two can get through this. hugs

  2. families…you love them or you hate them! or both…
    That’s rotten luck, hopefully everything sorts itself out soon.

    And congrats on the points!

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