Cessna’s Raisers

Over the past six months or so, I’ve been debating whether it’s worth continuing to keep in touch with Cessna’s raisers.

During the first four to five years of being a team, her raisers e-mailed regularly and when I wrote, would ask numerous questions about how she was doing.

Over the past year or so though, this has stopped.

About six months ago, I wrote them to give an update since we had not heard anything in a while. And to let them know Cessna had been diagnosed with tiny cataracts in both eyes. I thought they would have written back worried, wondering whether she would be able to continue working. Instead, I got a message which asked questions about other things I’d told them, and that said “Oh, that would not be good to have a blind guide dog”. They did not refer to Cessna by name. They did not ask what the veterinarian had said about the cataracts. They did not even ask about how she was enjoying winter or how she was doing otherwise.

This message had me concerned and sort of put off in regards to wanting any further communication.

I waited four to five months, to see if they wood write…they didn’t.

So, a day or so ago, I wrote with another update and to let them know Phoenix had passed away. I thought I would try giving them another chance to show me they still cared and even tried to put things into the message that would have them ask further questions.

Well, I got a message back and again there was nothing said or asked about Cessna – I was crushed.

I’m not sure if I’m just being silly, but I really am not sure I want to write them anymore.

Maybe it’s just an accidental oversight on their part.

Maybe they’re so busy with her foster mom’s adult daughter that they’ve had to put other interests on the back burner.

Or maybe Cessna just isn’t as important to them anymore.

I don’t know what the answer is, but I do know that this lack of caring is bothering me.

I’m honestly stuck. I don’t know if I should continue writing and just give them the benefit of the doubt. Or if I should just leave things alone and see how long it takes for them to take the initiative to write.

Comments

  1. Hi Y’all,

    I hear your agony. The raisers response is puzzling to say the least. Personally, I’d tend to write them off. If they make contact again, pick up the correspondence.

    I don’t know if the people continued to raise pups and maybe Cessna is now “off in the distance”, so to speak.

    I used to keep in touch with Hawk’s breeder. As time passed the breeder didn’t initiate any contact. With the exception of Christmas cards, I have dropped the contact.

    It’s a tough decision for you. You may never know the raiser’s feelings. Perhaps they feel like now that you and Cessna are a bonded team which doesn’t involve them, and they feel they are intruding.

    Just throwing you some thoughts.

    BrownDog’s Human

  2. This is tough. I know what your going through. Thane’s raisers have been friends of mine for years, but even they have changed- changed in that they blame my choice of diet rather than the Lyme for what’s gone wrong for Thane. I never once pointed to their breeding as the cause of anything even though they found out afterwards that the primary breeders idea of healthy breeding stock was really warped
    They quit initiating any communication themselves though long before that last *revelation*
    For me, I chose to take a step back and focus on what Thane and I needed.
    It is hard because I loved the idea of having them stay in his life even though he was here working as my service/ guide dog.
    I feel the same sadness you do but I have to put Thane’s care and my well being first and move on

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